Here is some more from those musings of mine that I found. I really needed to find this stuff!
The inability of us as parents to manipulate our children's feelings is tiresome. It is probably the most difficult thing for us to deal with. Children know what they want and that they should feel good now. Sometimes we are just to tired to help them get there on their own and we just want them to obey or just be easy.
My daughter loves art. There are days (alright, its actually everyday and now you can picture how messy things can get around here) when the floor is completely full of cut papers, glue, markers, paint, crayons, tape and who knows what else. We live in a town that is big into art so at our community arts center I signed her up for a class called Draw, Paint and Create. When she heard the name and I asked her if she wanted to go she started screaming and running around she was so excited. I told her I wouldn't be in the room with her and she said that was okay.
Well the class starts today and yesterday we were all on the Iris roller coaster. Yes I want to go, No I don't want to go, well maybe, then NO, NO, NO. I guess we could have just made her choose one and stick to it no matter what, but that is not our style.
Instead I used it as an opportunity to talk about her feelings and what she thought would happen. I told her that if she did want to try it, then anytime she was nervous then she should just think in her head "I am safe, this class is fun." But if she didn't want to go she didn't have to and if she wanted to try it and leave partway through that was fine too.
Later in the afternoon, she looked at me with tears in her eyes and a smile on her face and said "I'm feeling really good about my class tomorrow, I'm having really good thoughts about it now."
I figure no matter what happens with her class, at least I know I learned something and I think she did too.
Monday, June 30, 2008
Sunday, June 29, 2008
Back Again!
After a hiatus I am back! I am now the mother of 3 and our lives are pretty full :)
As in most homes with children, emotions are easily read and shown. This past week has been no exception and I was focusing on how that is good, because when all 3 kids are crying at the same time its really easy to doubt that. Today I found a piece of my writing from months ago and it gave me some calm:
Children trust themselves. They do not doubt themselves. What they feel is what they feel and the never think that they shouldn't feel how they are feeling. If they feel sad it is because they feel sad; it is a direct reflection. They don't feel good and they want it fixed right away. That is wonderful. They are connected to their well-being so easily and fully that when they are not, it is horrible. They know immediately and fully that they are unhappy and they want to somehow fix it NOW! The most important thing is getting back to feeling good. That's how it should be for all of us.They are the ones who have it right.
Just writing that again makes me feel better (that and the fact that my husband just took my two older ones to the farmer's market and the baby is sleeping)
As in most homes with children, emotions are easily read and shown. This past week has been no exception and I was focusing on how that is good, because when all 3 kids are crying at the same time its really easy to doubt that. Today I found a piece of my writing from months ago and it gave me some calm:
Children trust themselves. They do not doubt themselves. What they feel is what they feel and the never think that they shouldn't feel how they are feeling. If they feel sad it is because they feel sad; it is a direct reflection. They don't feel good and they want it fixed right away. That is wonderful. They are connected to their well-being so easily and fully that when they are not, it is horrible. They know immediately and fully that they are unhappy and they want to somehow fix it NOW! The most important thing is getting back to feeling good. That's how it should be for all of us.They are the ones who have it right.
Just writing that again makes me feel better (that and the fact that my husband just took my two older ones to the farmer's market and the baby is sleeping)
Monday, December 10, 2007
Meditation Group
Although this blog is entitled Think Thankful, I have never written about the group that started this. I started a meditation/study group in June 2007 and named it Think Thankful. I wanted it to be about meditation but also about the Law of Attraction and living it and using it in your life.
Starting the group is one of those examples of just relaxing and not focusing at all on the "what-ifs" that plague all new endeavors. I mentioned it to my acupuncturist Megan who owns and runs Stonington Natural Health Center in Stonington, CT. I almost didn't even realize that I was doing it at the time but out it came. She immediately said she would sponsor the group so that we could have a beautiful new theater space in the basement of her building to use. She talks to clients about it, puts it in her emails and generally just promotes the group. I think within a week or two the schedule was set and the first meeting was planned! I enjoy running the group and I am proud of it and am happy to have my name attached to it.
Megan has done alot to encourage the growth of the group and in so doing has helped me to have something of my own. It can be easy to put yourself and your own interests on the back burner when you have young children. We also homeschool our children and so I don't have this idea that in a few years I'll have some set time to myself five days a week. Therefore the desire to pay attention to my own interests can't be put off a few years. I'm going to have children at home for at least the next 20 years!
Through Megan's support of the group my own support for my interests has strengthened and for that I Am Thankful!
Starting the group is one of those examples of just relaxing and not focusing at all on the "what-ifs" that plague all new endeavors. I mentioned it to my acupuncturist Megan who owns and runs Stonington Natural Health Center in Stonington, CT. I almost didn't even realize that I was doing it at the time but out it came. She immediately said she would sponsor the group so that we could have a beautiful new theater space in the basement of her building to use. She talks to clients about it, puts it in her emails and generally just promotes the group. I think within a week or two the schedule was set and the first meeting was planned! I enjoy running the group and I am proud of it and am happy to have my name attached to it.
Megan has done alot to encourage the growth of the group and in so doing has helped me to have something of my own. It can be easy to put yourself and your own interests on the back burner when you have young children. We also homeschool our children and so I don't have this idea that in a few years I'll have some set time to myself five days a week. Therefore the desire to pay attention to my own interests can't be put off a few years. I'm going to have children at home for at least the next 20 years!
Through Megan's support of the group my own support for my interests has strengthened and for that I Am Thankful!
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Happiness First
I just saw a video from ABC News about a woman named Nancy Makin who has lost over 500 pounds. How did she do it? It was simple really. Nancy said Find Happiness First, know that you have value as a person and then as a side effect the weight will just come off.
She is so right and what a dramatic reminder!! You can't wait to be happy. You can't decide to be happy only when you lose the weight you want to, or find the perfect mate, or get a new job. You must find joy and happiness now. An easy way to start feeling better now is by being thankful, for something, for anything. That will get you on the right track.
She is so right and what a dramatic reminder!! You can't wait to be happy. You can't decide to be happy only when you lose the weight you want to, or find the perfect mate, or get a new job. You must find joy and happiness now. An easy way to start feeling better now is by being thankful, for something, for anything. That will get you on the right track.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Great Books
For those of you looking for some great books I would recommend any book by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Their Abraham series is really inspiring and life affirming. Read them - I am so glad that I did.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Being Bored is a Blessing
I got this from one of the homeschooling lists that I am on and I thought that it was such a great response to the classic "I'm Bored" that not only kids but adults say...
What a great way to bring thanks into a moment that is so often looked upon negatively! In all moments there is opportunity to find a way to be thankful.
How lucky for you, it means that you are ready for something new to
come into your life. Now is the time to relax, listen, and be aware
and open to your next adventure.
What a great way to bring thanks into a moment that is so often looked upon negatively! In all moments there is opportunity to find a way to be thankful.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
